anorexic children

[denelian]

by which i mean CHILDREN. not TEENAGERS; the main girl followed is 8

http://tinyurl.com/7spau4

all i can say right now is: THIS is the Patriarchy. THIS is unreasonable beauty standards for women, starting at earlier and earlier ages. this is high heels, this is Rush Limbaugh roasting Caroline Kennedy for having the audacity to EAT in PUBLIC (yep. women are now not allowed to EAT IN PUBLIC). this is lipstick and diet fads and girdles vs thongs. this is photoshopped models and pop singers shaving their heads.

in short, this is what women are TOLD, constantly, they MUST DO.

don't believe, or don't understand? go look at a Cosmo. pick up a national enquirer - note how current Oprah is being called a heifer and other horrible names... while male celebrities are ALLOWED to age AND to gain weight. watch a movie, and notice how most roles for women are either young women who are fuckable, or old women who are either mothers or evil, an sometimes both. the instances of older women being NOT a mother are so low that they are actually COUNTABLE. hell, turn on the TV and notice how ALL of those women are like size 1's. they have no curves, all of them are essentially anorexic, but it's not an issue with ADULT women because when it's an adult, it's obvious she is being anorexic to control her weight so she can get a man - and the patriarchy APPROVES of women getting men. it's only when it's a child being anorexic that it's an issue, because children are supposed to be sexless and therefor the anorexia is inexplicable; they obviously aren't trying to lose weight to get a man, because they are not old enought to get a man. so anorexia in a child is dangerous, but in an adult is expected.

this is why i sometimes come off as a rad-feminist. i am afraid that the ONLY way to change anything is through radical movement. i mean, most people refuse to even see that there IS a fucking problem, let alone attempt to define it or fix it. when i bitch about unreal and impossible beauty standards, the typical reply back is something along the lines of "You're just bitching because you are fat and unattractive". even though i am not "fat" - i am only maybe 25 pounds overweight, which makes me PLUMP - and i am obviously not unattractive, at least going by the number of guys who try to get me into bed. of course, most of them wouldn't have dated me, so there is still that element of maybe i am only good for fucking, that maybe i am too fat for a guy to want a relationship with me.

but then again, i have Pete, and not only does he want to have sex with me, but he wants the relationship. we are living together, and we are going on 5 years...

fuck it. it's the Patriarchy, and it's wrong. look around and see it before jumping on me for being mad at it.

Comments

[obscurite.livejournal.com]

i totally understand

[sadslacker.livejournal.com]

While you know by now I'm very much against the skeletonization of the female form, I have to point out that if you ask the average guy on the street, he will pick a svelte woman over a stick. Most of the appearance related propoganda is being pushed by men who don't like women in the first place. The fashion world is ruled not by straight, overbearing patriarchs if you haven't noticed, nor is Hollywood.

I will give you that women have gotten a short thrift throughout history (massive understatement) but when it comes to fashion, etc. don't point fingers at the evil straight male.

Look to Kate White (cosmo), Bonnie Fuller (YM, Cosmo, Mairie Claire, Glamour), Valentino Garavani (Designer and gay man),Tom Ford (Gucci designer who went solo and a gay man), Donatella Versace (transvestite right??;) ).

These people tell america and american women what is beautiful and amazingly enough the form they choose is most often a tall, thin and very boyish female form. I think while the media may present that image and on the surface men pay lip service to it, generally the bulk of us prefer curves.

If fashion models, fashion magazines and Hollywood started presenting a more reasonable (and healthy) female form alot of these eating disorders would diminish.

I encourage my children to make healthy choices, using myself as an example of bad choices. Other than restricting sweets because of behavior and health, I would never tell my kids they had to drink diet coke and could only have a salad.

[christraven.livejournal.com]

As a cock-man oppressor-member of the vile patriarchal establishment, all I can say is:

The fashion/glamour industry is near the top of my list of things to destroy when I begin my 83% culling spree.