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by which i mean CHILDREN. not TEENAGERS; the main girl followed is 8

http://tinyurl.com/7spau4

all i can say right now is: THIS is the Patriarchy. THIS is unreasonable beauty standards for women, starting at earlier and earlier ages. this is high heels, this is Rush Limbaugh roasting Caroline Kennedy for having the audacity to EAT in PUBLIC (yep. women are now not allowed to EAT IN PUBLIC). this is lipstick and diet fads and girdles vs thongs. this is photoshopped models and pop singers shaving their heads.

in short, this is what women are TOLD, constantly, they MUST DO.

don't believe, or don't understand? go look at a Cosmo. pick up a national enquirer - note how current Oprah is being called a heifer and other horrible names... while male celebrities are ALLOWED to age AND to gain weight. watch a movie, and notice how most roles for women are either young women who are fuckable, or old women who are either mothers or evil, an sometimes both. the instances of older women being NOT a mother are so low that they are actually COUNTABLE. hell, turn on the TV and notice how ALL of those women are like size 1's. they have no curves, all of them are essentially anorexic, but it's not an issue with ADULT women because when it's an adult, it's obvious she is being anorexic to control her weight so she can get a man - and the patriarchy APPROVES of women getting men. it's only when it's a child being anorexic that it's an issue, because children are supposed to be sexless and therefor the anorexia is inexplicable; they obviously aren't trying to lose weight to get a man, because they are not old enought to get a man. so anorexia in a child is dangerous, but in an adult is expected.

this is why i sometimes come off as a rad-feminist. i am afraid that the ONLY way to change anything is through radical movement. i mean, most people refuse to even see that there IS a fucking problem, let alone attempt to define it or fix it. when i bitch about unreal and impossible beauty standards, the typical reply back is something along the lines of "You're just bitching because you are fat and unattractive". even though i am not "fat" - i am only maybe 25 pounds overweight, which makes me PLUMP - and i am obviously not unattractive, at least going by the number of guys who try to get me into bed. of course, most of them wouldn't have dated me, so there is still that element of maybe i am only good for fucking, that maybe i am too fat for a guy to want a relationship with me.

but then again, i have Pete, and not only does he want to have sex with me, but he wants the relationship. we are living together, and we are going on 5 years...

fuck it. it's the Patriarchy, and it's wrong. look around and see it before jumping on me for being mad at it.

Date: 2009-01-18 02:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
gods, you would, the way your family treated you. i don't know how you escaped being anorexic yourself, its all very fucked up. i really hope this post didn't upset you. it wasn't meant to. i was ranting, and was sorta thinking about writing a paper about this topic, and the unrealistic expectations and pressures that are applied by parents. what do you think?

Date: 2009-01-18 02:49 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
that first bit of my reply isn't a judgement of you - what i was meaning is that your parents were very cruel, and acted very fucked up. i'm sorry if it came out wrong...

Date: 2009-01-18 04:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] obscurite.livejournal.com
oh no worries I understood. Honestly I think there was a time I was leading towards that but obviously I have other weight issues. I think this is a great topic and something that encompasses our whole world as women. I had a guy the other day think a BBW is a size 12 and I was just floored. At size 12 I don't think I would have catagorized myself as a Big woman. We have this brandished scarlet "sizes" applied to us as women. Worse off women are just as bad to "plus size" women as men are. And i agree with you on the guys who will sleep with you but will not date you if you are oversized.

Date: 2009-01-18 08:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
12?!?!?! 12!!!!!!!!
wow.
it all sucks. sigh.
a centuray ago, you would have been the exact epitome of beauty standards (except i think you are a little taller than the norm was). today, people are bastards about it. and honestly? you are more attractive than any supermodel. at least *I* think so. not to be bitchy, but you aren't like *FAT*,i have seen *FAT* women. you are, like me, a bit overweight and can be called "cuddley" or "plump", but you are NOT fat.
but the olsen twins, weighing a whole 120 combined are somehow *fat* when they wear size 2 clothing?
i just hate the fashion industry, and unrealistic beauty standards, and photoshop.

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