you are misunderstand. i am not attacking MEN (athough to an extent i am attack "masculinity"); i am attacking the PATRIARCHY. the only time that i stated something about straight men all being alike, it was me saying that every guy i had talked to had given me that sort of spiel. the rest of it, attack the tools the patriarchy uses to continue to place women in a lesser place then men. please re-read it. those places where i am talking to guys about when and how and who they fuck - those are directed at the men i know who do that. i'm just not calling anyone out, not naming names, but they know who they are. and we have talked about, each and every guy i was thinking of.
i never once made an accusation of sexism towards every man on the planet. nor do i think i made sexist accusations myself - again, every accusation i made was specific, even if there were no names. generlly becase they happened with too many guys.
finally, i have to ask - do you understand what i mean by patriarchy? and why it's bad? can you check your own privledge enough to think about what i wrote (probably not well, oxycodone isn't conducive to that, i grant) and see that while at NO POINT did i attack *YOU* (and honestly you weren;t one of the guys i thought about a lot), that some of these thing DO apply to you? and how scarey that is to me, and most women, even if we don't articulate it to men. (because it's a bad idea to tell me that they scare you - either the guy gets mad cu hes a "NICE GUY, damnit!" and scares the girl more, or he then proceeds to take advantage of the fear. not all the time, just enough that we have all learned better by now)
really, none of it was supposed to be an attack, or even an accusation. and none of it every was "every straight man", just every man i had spoken to on a specific topic.
so i conclude that for whatever reason, you didn't get it.
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Date: 2008-09-08 07:03 am (UTC)those places where i am talking to guys about when and how and who they fuck - those are directed at the men i know who do that. i'm just not calling anyone out, not naming names, but they know who they are. and we have talked about, each and every guy i was thinking of.
i never once made an accusation of sexism towards every man on the planet. nor do i think i made sexist accusations myself - again, every accusation i made was specific, even if there were no names. generlly becase they happened with too many guys.
finally, i have to ask - do you understand what i mean by patriarchy? and why it's bad? can you check your own privledge enough to think about what i wrote (probably not well, oxycodone isn't conducive to that, i grant) and see that while at NO POINT did i attack *YOU* (and honestly you weren;t one of the guys i thought about a lot), that some of these thing DO apply to you? and how scarey that is to me, and most women, even if we don't articulate it to men. (because it's a bad idea to tell me that they scare you - either the guy gets mad cu hes a "NICE GUY, damnit!" and scares the girl more, or he then proceeds to take advantage of the fear. not all the time, just enough that we have all learned better by now)
really, none of it was supposed to be an attack, or even an accusation. and none of it every was "every straight man", just every man i had spoken to on a specific topic.
so i conclude that for whatever reason, you didn't get it.