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so, haggard won't admit that he is gay. he insists, over and over, that he is heterosexual with, what, something like gay proclivities? something, anyway, that means he's not really gay, he just looks gay

and his wife is enabling this http://pandagon.net/index.php/site/comments/gayle_haggard_knows_99_of_teds_sexual_experiences_were_with_her/

and, you know, it IS hard when people insist on applying a label to you that isn't true. i have "come out" as STRAIGHT more time than i can count, because people always fucking assume that a confident woman who speaks up MUST be a lesbian. it pisses me off when this happens - not because i have a problem with lesbians, or lesbianism, but because it diminishes women in toto. it means that "real" women (read: hetero only) CANNOT be loud and outspoken and stand up for themselves; it stigmatizes both sides of the hetero/homo line, and it tells me "If you were a REAL woman, you wouldn't act this way" and goes on the assert that lesbians are NOT "real" women because they DO act the way that i do.

it's all fucked up.

and the Haggards of the world just continue the persecution and the hate the false divides and the ignorance. so, no, no pity for them.

Date: 2009-01-31 10:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] christraven.livejournal.com
Wait, you mean you're not a Lizzbian?

;-D

IKWYM, though - I've never had any sympathy for the Ted Haggards of the world.

Date: 2009-01-31 10:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
there is a difference between "lesbian" and "Lizbian", just so you know lol.

Ted Haggards SUCK. that's what i mean. they all just fucking SUCK.

Date: 2009-02-01 01:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sadslacker.livejournal.com
Anyone who would think you a lesbian must have a very, very fragile male ego. Although...


If you were a real woman there would be scandalous pictures floating around the internet of you! Although I guess on the converse, if I were a real man, I could of convinced you to pose for said pictures...sigh..back where I started. I think it's more fun to be pretend women and men more anyways, we get to make up our own rules and definitions.

Date: 2009-02-01 05:32 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
i... i...

do you know, all the modeling i did as i teen, and i have NEVER posed nude?

no, wait, i take that back. but it wasn't deliberate it was without my knowledge and i destroyed the film.

other than that, you made me laugh. needed a laugh; thank you.

Date: 2009-02-01 12:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] roniliquidity.livejournal.com
I think it might be less your being outspoken, and more your tendency to kiss girls, that makes people think might be bi. :)

Date: 2009-02-01 09:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] denelian.livejournal.com
um...

i don't kiss girls. i sometimes very rarely will kiss a friend on the cheek. VERY rare. and even then, mostle guys.

i am speaking of a specific pheomenon that takes place mostly in classes, wherein most other students decide that i am a lesbian (NOT bi) becasue i speak up and out, kinda aggressively. none of these people se me around ANY of my friends, let alone the 3 or 4 i might kiss on the cheek. they are judging soley on my classroom behavior.

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